The 5 Biggest Mistakes Women Make During Sex

Only men are not responsible for making many mistakes during sex. Women also make many mistakes during sex and often blame it on men. We asked and found the 5 biggest and most common mistakes women make during sex.

  1. Too focused (or worried) about doing it right

As they would have it, people say women are prone to stressing out. So much more than men. But although that is true to some extent, you should not bring your stress over doing it right to the bedroom.

If you are way too focused on doing every single thing right, you may end up doing nothing right at all.

One of the reasons for stressing is being not confident, especially if you are doing it for the first time with a new partner.

You get worried about how he’ll judge your tummy, or worry about your body image when you re naked.

Don’t focus on the negatives aspects. Remember that you are this situation to have fun and enjoy, per an article on the Stylecaster website.

More than the idea of performance, sex is all about release and relaxation (this is something not that many people have caught up on).

With that said, if you are too focused on how well you can perform, you can’t release tension, and then everything you do will feel forced.

Although you can indeed perform like that, the satisfaction you get will be way below par. So, what should you do instead if you want to perform well? Relax and go with the rhythm of it.

  1. Only preoccupied with achieving the big O

There are two types of women: those who have had an orgasm and those who have not.

But there is a thing that both types of women may suffer from which may turn out to be the biggest mistake they make during sex: overly preoccupied with getting the big explosion of an orgasm.

Those who have had it may simply want to get that feeling again and those who have not are extremely curious. However, in both cases, wanting to achieve orgasm so badly is just counterintuitive.

Again, the culprit is the inability to relax and release tension. With that said, if you find yourself being unable to let go of the thought of achieving the big O, pause for a moment and take a deep breath to recentre yourself.

You can just tell your partner, it takes only 3 seconds anyway. Then, focus on just being in the present moment.

  1. Not giving the clit the attention it deserves

Another massive mistake most women make in the bedroom: not giving the clitoris the attention it deserves.

The clitoris is this small nut-shaped thing right on top of the opening of your vagina and sometimes people just don't know what to do with it.

Men are the most clueless because they have been 'educated' to focus on only the vagina. But that is wrong because the clitoris is quite literally the female penis.

The clitoris is connected to at least 8,000 nerve endings (the penis has around 4,000 only!) and stimulating this organ will definitely get any woman the explosive big O they so covet.

Besides, the clitoris’ only function is entire to induce pleasure. So what not pleasure yourself or help your man do it for you?

A women must take responsibility for her sexual encounter and no man can bring you to orgasm unless you take the initiative.

Per WebMD article, even the best lover can’t know your sexual need unless you let him know.

If you want to achieve the big O whilst doing penetrative sex, tell your partner to position his pelvis higher than yours. That way the base of his penis will touch your clitoris as he goes in and out.

  1. Being too passive and timid

Women who are not exceptionally sexually empowered may think that they should always be shy, unwilling, and passive. Well, depending on culture this mindset may be harder to break for some women.

However, let this be known for now: being overly passive and timid in the bedroom can be your fatal mistake. In fact, many men prefer women who are daring and know what they want.

This doesn't necessarily mean that you should be more aggressive than your male partner though. However, it stands that being more passionate will grant you a more satisfying experience in the bedroom.

Unfortunately, women prefer to be so subtle, fearing that they may be misjudged for being a maniac.

So she’ll make subtle move like glancing sideways to indicate that when wants to be stimulated that way, as per an article on the Psychology Today website.

But during sex, men are too focused and pressed from mental and emotional pressures to even notice that you are trying to trace his finger in a certain direction.

Also, rather than thinking that being bold is for the benefit of your partner, you should just prioritise your own satisfaction.

Know what you want, tell that to your partner and guide them, and have your orgasm every single time. Don't be shy about being in charge from time to time.

  1. Being too loud or chatty

On the opposite spectrum of shy and passive women, there are those who really know what they want and they aren’t shy to tell their partners about their single desires.

These are the women who are too chatty whilst in the middle of having sex. Of course, moaning and uttering a few words of encouragement are wonderful and all. Your partner is sure to also appreciate the praises.

However, if you are too loud or you say too many things, your partner could get confused as well. Your loud noises may also make them worried about who amongst the neighbours could hear you.

Also, they themselves may get distracted from being fully absorbed at the moment. So if you happen to be one such person, you may want to reign back your chatter a little bit.

Just to be safe, you could actually ask your partner if they think you’re too chatty or not!

To summarize, the biggest sex mistakes were identified, and we were blown by how small mistakes can become a lifetime embarrassment for women. Hopefully, after learning about these mistakes, you can avoid them to save yourself from embarrassment.


5 Questions Every Woman Should Ask Her Gynecologist

  1. What is a normal menstrual cycle?

Many women are worried about whether or not their menstrual cycles are normal. However, although we can deduce an average, in reality, every woman will have a unique cycle of their own.

That said, what is a normal and healthy cycle for you may not necessarily be the same with another woman. Still, the difference should not be too great either.

When you make a visit to an ob/GYN, you could ask about what would be a normal and healthy menstrual cycle for you.

Your ob/GYN will be able to perform some checks on you and see if there is anything particularly irregular or abnormal about your menstruation.

As a general rule of averageness though, a normal menstrual cycle is usually more or less 28 days. This is the number you count from the last day of your bleeding to the next first day of your period.

  1. What should I do about painful sex?

If you are an adult who has become sexually active, but then has problems with painful penetrative sex, you could ask your ob/GYN about this.

The first thing your ob/GYN may ask you though is whether or not you usually spend enough time getting wet before penetration is performed. Adequate lubrication is very important in any kind of penetrative sex.

Unless adequate lubrication is achieved, sex can be painful. After all, it is a skin-to-skin-friction situation. Of course, your vagina produces natural lubrication as you get sexually aroused.

However, sometimes this isn't achieved fast enough. That's why sensual foreplay is very important.

Also, if you find yourself taking very long to get fully aroused, your ob/GYN may also ask questions that are related to your sex drive (desire for sex).

You may suffer from a low sex drive that makes the production of natural lubrication difficult.

  1. Can I get rid of bad vaginal smell?

The vagina does indeed have its own unique aroma. Many people don’t like the smell of their own vagina, but as long as your vagina is not smelling pungently unpleasant, there should be nothing to worry about health-wise.

Still, if the smell of your vagina is something that bothers you a lot, you should not hesitate to ask your ob/GYN whether or not something is wrong with the health of your vaginal environment.

When you make a visit to your ob/GYN and try to get advice on how to care properly for your vagina, you are very likely to be advised against using soap for the inner parts of your vagina.

We are talking about the inner tube that is actually called the vagina. However, the skin outside of it which is called the vulva should be soaped for a few seconds using a mild soap.

Other than that, your ob/GYN may advise against eating certain strong-smelling foods.

  1. How can I maintain a healthy pH level?

There are many women who are in the dark when it comes to the maintenance of a healthy pH level. It is all due to a lack of proper sexual education. Essentially, healthy pH levels are balanced pH levels.

This means the environment of your vagina is neither too extremely acidic nor too extremely alkaline.

In fact, your vagina should never be alkaline at all as the vagina needs to maintain a balanced acidity level to keep bacteria spread in check.

So, if you need to get proper advice on how to maintain a healthy level of pH balance, you should not hesitate to raise this question to your ob/GYN.

You should also ask your trusted ob/GYN to give you advice on a proper diet that could support a healthy vaginal pH level. If you’re into supplements, a probiotic supplement could also help you, so ask about a recommendation as well.

  1. How can I prevent a yeast infection?

Yeast infection is very common. In fact, most women would experience a struggle with such an infection several times at any point in their lives.

However, just because it is very common, doesn’t mean it is not a terrible infection to suffer from. Yeast infections could cause a plethora of discomfort.

Most yeast infections are easy to treat and you can even get over-the-counter meds for them.

However, if you are going to make a visit to your trusted ob/GYN, you should not hesitate to ask about other ways to prevent the infection from affecting you, to begin with.

Your ob/GYN may then give you advice on lifestyle. Such advice may include the way you eat: whether or not you eat too much processed sugars; the kind of underwear you put on daily: cotton and silk are the best for breathability; personal hygiene: whether or not you douche.


Low Female Libido Remedies In An Effective Way

Coldness for libido is an issue faced by lots of women in the world today. Generally, it is described as a lack of satisfaction of sex and the cause may due to a lack of interest in libido. Frequently the grounds for frigidity for most every woman can be traced back to some psychological reasons and her thoughts related to sexual desire.

For example, sex is regarded as a sin in several cultures and in some cases, women are embarrassed to talk about sex and run away from having intercourse. This then results in frigidity or aloofness because the woman does not want to have sexual contentment at all. In some cases, a traumatic sexual experience in the past like rape or sexual abuse can also be a cause of turning their back of having sex. There are several general reasons including anxiety, depression, fight with your spouse, and lack of interest in a spouse can be also taken into consideration.

Symptoms of coldness to sex are normal to recognize. There is dryness in the vaginal area and the woman finds suffers pain during their lovemaking and does not enjoy libido. Sometimes the spouse is not very skilled at loving and caring and the female does not get turned on as she must preferably and may get frigid under the sheets thus leading to run away from having sex.

Luckily there are low female libido remedies that can resolve this problem of coldness towards libido. Conversely, these home remedies can work very effectively only, when the female is prepared mentally to have a satisfied libido. Until and unless the female does not have a desire to make a passionate life with her spouse, no medicines can be useful. However, for lack of libido as well as to deal with anxiety, depression, and stress these home treatments are a boon.

Initial step to increase female libido is having proper medical counseling to get aware of the cause of this condition. A positive approach is essential in defeating this problem. For low female libido remedies, several herbal supplements and hormone medications are found, which come to the rescue of the woman. Natural treatments have very efficiently conquered such problems wonderfully.

Maca (Lepidium meyenii) root is an Andes people food used centuries ago and is responsible to increase energy and stamina as well as sex drives through its harmonizing and strengthening achievement on the entire body and the hormonal system.

Roseroot (Rhodiola rosea) is a traditional herbal medicine of the Arctic regions and North Europe for more than 3000 years. It is a stimulant to the physical power as well as endurance. It is potent to elevate the body’s resistance power against any kind of stress by controlling the hormonal response.

Other low female libido remedies are to regulate your diet by consuming food rich in Vitamin B, C, and E, Bioflavonoids, Lecithins, and fish liver oils. Chocolates, coffee, and cola are also good enhancers of libido.

Low female libido remedies can also be alleviated by adding certain food items daily in your diets like pine nuts, avocado, cooked tomatoes, almonds, celery, asparagus, ginger, garlic, figs, and bananas. The recommended foods help to increase sexual desire and gives complete satisfaction.