A high sex drive can be tiring for people receiving the end of it. Unfortunately, many people have a high sex drive, which can tire out their partners. For this purpose, we have listed five tips for partners with a high sex drive to make their lives easier.
Try to Boost Your Libido
It is normal and natural for couples to experience a mismatch in libido every once in a while. However, some couples experience it very often that it can develop into a problem. It is even more common for men to have a higher sex drive compared to their female partners, especially in a marriage set up or long term relationship. Furthermore, it is natural for women to experience a decline in their sex drive as they become older and approach menopause. However, the fact that your partner has a high libido doesn't mean that you should sit back and wait for them to change.
You can try home remedies such as food and spices to boost your sex drive. Foods such as oats, fatty fish, and spices like chaste berry can give your sex drive a boost. You can also try drinks such as coffee or a glass of wine that are useful in getting you in the mood. Exercises such as yoga and meditation also help in getting you in the right state of mind for great sex and also help you relax.
Intercourse is Means to a Destination
Most of us have been used to the idea of intercourse being the main sexual event. Other sexual activities such as oral sex and other forms of manual stimulation can be equally satisfying too. The fact that your man has a high sex drive doesn’t necessarily mean that you should be having intercourse all the time. There are things that you can do to him that are sexually pleasing and satisfying. You only need to communicate with your partner and find out what they like besides intercourse.
This could be your chance to widen your sex menu and include other sexual activities other than intercourse. For instance, you can include different forms of light touch and massages for intimacy purposes. Your husband may also be open to the idea of masturbating while you watch as this turns him on even more. You can also add other erotic activities such as talking dirty or kissing while he masturbates to make him more satisfied.
Scheduling Sex Can Help
We all have different desires at different times and being in a relationship only makes it more complex. All you have to do is understand yourself and your partner. Once you understand each other it becomes easy to compromise on the frequency of intercourse. If your partner wants to have sex twice or thrice a week and you are in the mood for let’s say four times a month then you can reach an agreement to have sex once every week. This will help both of you to only have sex when both of you are ready and in the mood.
That is why it is critical to schedule sex dates. Even though your partner may not be having sex as frequently as he wishes, he will be at ease knowing that lovemaking will take place at some point during the week. This will also put you at ease since you know that sex will only take place when you want. However, this will only work if both you commit yourselves by not canceling the sex dates when they are due.
Communicate With Your Partner
Communication is vital in every relationship whether it is a romantic one or not. Shelving your frustrations and worries will only worsen the situation. Furthermore, without proper communication, your partner will be in the dark and unaware that they are hurting you emotionally. The best way to handle the situation is to bite the bullet and have a frank discussion with your partner about your desires and sexual expectations.
For example, instead of simply telling your husband that you can't have sex at that particular moment, help them understand why you are not in the mood. Explain to them that the reason why you have turned down his sexual advances has nothing to do with them as a person but rather about your wishes and your sex drive. This will help him understand that the rejection is not personal, but due to other underlying reasons. Once you learn to communicate clearly with each other, you will be able to handle such issues with respect and understanding and prevent both of you from drifting further apart.
It May Be Time to See a Sex Therapist
As much as it is not easy talking to a stranger about your sexual problems it helps to get another perspective from someone who is not part of your relationship. If you have tried all of the above measures and more and nothing seems to work then it is probably time you consider talking to a professional. This is because such professionals are equipped with vast knowledge and experience about sexual awareness and sexuality that goes beyond personal opinions and experiences.
Consulting a sex therapist also helps because their ultimate goal is to help individuals go beyond their emotional and physical challenges, have a pleasurable sex life, and a satisfying relationship. As you go in for the appointment, your therapist may have to see you separately and together to establish different viewpoints. Remember to be honest with each other and the therapist if you want to resolve the problem faster and amicably.
In brief, we discussed the five easy tips for a partner with a high sex drive. We are sure that implementing these five tips can help you control your libido, and you can further look for solutions to your problem.