Many religions and cultures still have stigmas associated with sexual activities and consider sexual acts shameful. But do you know that shame about sexual interactions can lead to reduced sex drive? Here’s what you should know.
Things have changed, the world is ever-changing and so do people’s perceptions. There still are communities where women don’t express bluntly even in front of their life partners. If they do, they are stigmatized. There are certain communities still holding the perception that women are to be governed by their husbands. This is what keeps those women confined inside certain limitations. They have to feel embarrassed even during intercourse. But the good news is that most of the world has left such thoughts behind. The contemporary lifestyle and culture are much different.
In this life, you never say never. All of us want the best that life has to offer, but it does not always happen. You will find yourself in trouble. Some of the problems you face are as a result of your poor decisions, while others happen and you cannot see how and why they did. Some of the decisions that can land you in problems are poor choices about engaging in sexual intercourse.
It is not the strict cultural belief only but there is something important to deal with, the moral values you hold and respect, and the religious teachings which you are bound to follow. We never discourage these things because they actually form the code of conduct. But let us have a look at how these strong forces interfere with your sexual life.
If you have engaged in a sexual activity that runs contrary to your personal beliefs, values, religious background or comfort levels, you may become so shy about engaging in sexual interactions in certain ways. Your present and past sexual decisions may haunt you for a very long time and cause depletion in your female libido especially when you come into contact with the same or similar situations. When specific value-based considerations are coming in-between you and your partner, you may end up not enjoy sexual intercourse the way you used to, and this can cause significant blow on your female libido.
If you are a strict Christian, for instance, certain sexual positions may seem unholy to you, and you may feel ashamed to engage in such acts with your partner even though you derived more pleasure from them when you practiced them. For some strict religious individuals, having sexual intercourse before marriage is prohibited and when they remember how they lost their virginity probably on prom night or a female night out, they tend to become more reserved and restrict the sexual pleasures they engage in.
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A person who has undergone bad sexual experiences such as rape, sexual assault or just a terrible experience with an ex-partner also have chances of facing shame when it comes to sexual interactions. Sexual trauma, whose impact has always been underestimated can significantly interfere with the victim’s life, including his sex life. For instance, a woman who has been raped, and his partner is aware of it, might feel unworthy of his partner and this will extend even to the bedroom. Victims of such happenings should seek professional help at the earliest opportunity to overcome the trauma.
Dealing with shame and low sex drive
There is no point thinking about what has happened in the past. Hence, you need to forgive yourself if you believe you have compromised on your personal beliefs, values, or religious obligations. When you forgive yourself, you will be able to put the shame behind you and open your mind to new techniques that can help you derive more pleasure and help sustain your female libido. You need to talk openly with your partner and do not be judgmental about as regards any value-based considerations in practicing sex techniques. Your partner will naturally understand your religious and personal values and will like to explore with you other options that you can explore together.
Getting more education can also help you in dealing with some of the sexual conducts you believe are shameful when you get more knowledge on certain sexual pleasures, you will discover that they are not disgraceful actually, but the misconceptions surrounding such acts make them appear to be shameful. Lack of education is the reason why many couples abstain from what could have been the saving grace for their low female libido and the moment they unravel the conspiracies surrounding such beliefs, they become enlightened and opened to new ways and ideas to spice up their boring sex lives.
There is no point to be ashamed of your past sexual interactions since everyone has some forms of ugly pasts. Hence you are not alone. Confessing about your previous sexual conducts to your partner will help you take the guilt off your mind. If you are afraid of talking to your partner, then you should consider seeking the help of a psychologist who can help you put behind the shame and also help you deal with the humiliation in such a way that your sex life will come back to life.
To sum up, we discussed how people feel shameful about sexual interaction, and this behavior gradually deteriorates their sex drive. There is a hope that creating awareness can help people eliminate the inside shame and openly discuss sex drive issues.
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Fact 12: Period sex is good
90% of women avoid having sex during their periods. The remaining 10% are the smarter ones. Sex during periods is great. It is a myth that you cannot have sexual intercourse while you are chumming. It has been tested and proven that women have a crazy drive during periods. They have a higher urge of doing it while they are bleeding. This is because of some hormonal changes and fluctuations. It also helps you to get over the period cramps you get.
The more amount of sex you have during your periods, the lesser you will cry of pain. It also relieves you of headaches and mood swings. It has also been seen that if you have sex during your periods, the length of period reduces. The period also lubricates the whole process and can be better for sex. Though pregnancy chances during periods are nil, it is not completely zero, so make sure you take proper precautions before getting into action.